There's one thing really wrong with this world: no one shares much especially when it's something that used to be a topic of non discussion when my grandparents were growing up. There's a ton of things on this list, out of wedlock children, out of wedlock living together, homosexuality or even just sexuality in general. My biggest taboo issue is something that I have experienced myself: Fertility and pregnancy and infant loss. I suffer from Infertility. I'll blog about that at a different time as well as my loss.
The biggest question is why is infertility such a taboo subject? Is it because it's not acceptable to not be able to have your own children the cheap way? Is it Catholicism, which doesn't believe in means of "artificial" pregnancy or birth control? Why do those of us who suffer from infertility feel we have to hide this and even our feelings when we're supposed to be happy about someone else getting pregnant and watch them enjoy their babies? Why should we?
My biggest reason for this is to help raise awareness. Infertility should NOT be a taboo subject. When conventional methods of conceiving fail, what are we all supposed to do? Everyone wants their own genes being passed on. A woman wants to feel everything in pregnancy, yes even the morning sickness is a great thing to feel until you can feel that baby move on it's own by practicing their kicks on your over-stretched belly! The morning sickness helps you know the pregnancy is progressing since so many pregnancies don't even make it past the first three months. The thrill of feeling your own little one growing inside your belly is amazing. That's what we all hear anyway.
Imagine being the one suffering from infertility and are hearing all this good stuff that happens during pregnancy, while you are spending your life savings to get the drugs that will *possibly* allow you to carry your own child. Sometimes it can be years before the medications can work right, or you may end up with more than you bargain for. There's so many risks!
Take a look next time at how many shows have babies being born, or raising children is being shown, count how many commercials show babies and the loving mother/child relationship being shown in a beautiful way, the latest baby products showing a cute baby using these items. Next time you go to the store think about going through those aisles of baby products you wish you could buy but may never be able to because you have no idea if this cycle works or not, how many days is it before I can get a positive pregnancy test?
The sheer amount of things out there that will remind you of something you can't have but long for more than anything in this world is astounding. I'm fighting to make infertility a non taboo subject especially since 1 in 8 couples suffers from one form of infertility or another male or female. Infertility should not be something we HAVE to hide from others.
